You can fix almost anything. Your marriage and your inner life are harder.
Therapy for men in Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland, and anywhere else in Washington State or Rhode Island, whether you’re facing a divorce or recovering from one, carrying a demanding job, or stuck without a clear reason. Sessions are by video.
14
years in clinical practice
35
therapists in the practice I led as clinical director, 2022 to 2026
Holding it together
Maybe the marriage is ending. Maybe it isn’t, and your wife has started saying she doesn’t know you anymore. Maybe you haven’t decided anything, and you haven’t said any of it out loud to anyone yet. You’ve been carrying it alone.
You still show up for the morning meeting and the kids’ games. Underneath it you aren’t sleeping, and you replay the same conversations on the drive home. Many of the men I see are ten or twenty years into a marriage, a career, or both.
Therapy gives that somewhere to go: the same hour each week, with someone who has no side in it. We sort out what you want, where the anger or the flatness comes from, and what to say next. Some men come for a few months around one decision; others stay for years.
Request a consultationHow therapy helps
One week at a time
We meet by video at the same time each week and go over what happened, what it stirred up, and what you want to do differently. Often I’ll suggest a small experiment to try before next time, and then we look at how it went.
What you feel, and what to do with it
A divorce, a layoff, or a promotion that should have felt better brings up feelings most men have had little practice with: anger with nowhere acceptable to go, grief, and the quiet sense of being a fraud. As you learn how your own reactions work, they usually run your day a little less.
The hard conversations
Some of the hardest conversations of your life come with no practice runs:
- Talking to your spouse or ex-spouse without relitigating everything
- Telling your children without handing them your version of it
- Telling your partner what’s been going on with you, after months of saying “fine”
- Saying no at work to someone who isn’t used to hearing it
We work out what you want to say, and how to say it without the other eight things attached.
Marcus Berley
MA, LMHC, Licensed Mental Health Counselor
RI license MHC01416
WA license MHC.LH.60643240
“Marcus has enormous generosity of spirit and is extraordinarily skilled at meeting people right where they are.”
What stays between us
Private pay
I don’t bill insurance, so no claim or diagnosis goes to an insurer unless you choose to send one a superbill.
From wherever you are
Sessions are by video from your home, your office, or your parked car. There’s no building to be seen walking into.
Clinical, never forensic
I don’t take court work or write evaluations for either side. My role is to help you, and nobody else is a client in it.
Who I work with
- Men who feel stuck, flat, or short-tempered and can’t quite say why
- Men going through a divorce, or co-parenting after one
- Engineers, managers, and executives in Seattle tech
- Neurodivergent adults: autistic, ADHD, highly sensitive, or twice-exceptional, and their partners and parents
- Couples who want to stay together
- Women as well: most of my clients are men, but not all of them
How we begin
Get in touch
Call, text, or email, or pick a time on the contact page. I reply within one business day.
A 20-minute conversation
Tell me what’s going on, and I’ll tell you plainly whether I think I can help. There’s no charge for it.
A standing weekly hour
If we go ahead, we settle on a regular time. Sessions are 45 minutes and $250.